Don’t marry for sex; Marry for the right reason

By ChiDubem Michael

Marriage means several things to different people, culture and religion regarding the time and place of the culture and people involved. What for some people are obvious assumptions are for others unthinkable. No-one is correct: there simply are different forms of marriage.

It is the right of no culture to impose its own ideas of marriage on other cultures, and the right of no sub-culture or religion to control marriage taboos within their own culture. So some believe in multiple marriage partners, some believe in having only straight marriages, some place age barriers in different ways. None are right, all are different. Thus, different things motivate young men and ladies to marriage.

Whatever your reason or reasons are for why you should get married or whatever your culture or religion says about marriage, Dubemicky have these admonition for you;

Never get married because of sex,

Never get married because you’re getting old,

Never get married because you’re of age,

Never get married because you’re lonely,

Never get married because you need someone to support you financially,

Never get married because you’re pregnant,

Never get married because you don't want to lose the person,

Never get married because of family pressures,

Never get married because you like the idea of marriage,

Never get married out of pity,

Never get married because of tribe

Never get married because you admire all the wedding gowns you see,

Never get married because you love kids,

Never get married because all your friends are getting married,

Never get married because of beauty and physical appearance,

Never get married because of academic qualifications and intelligence.

However, don’t feel bad because others marry before you. Marriage is no competition. “What matters is how well you marry not how fast you marry. It is always better to be single wanting to get married than to be married and fasting and praying to be single. Ladies, before you marry him make sure you are not mistaking a man who has been humbled by life for a man who lives a humble life. One is by force, the other is by choice” – Reno Omokri.

Guys, marry because she has big love for you, not because she has big breast, except you are into the business of selling baby milk. No matter the pleasure she gives you, don’t confuse a bed material for a wife material if you want to prosper in life. Marry a woman who is relevant to your life not a woman who is only relevant to your bedroom. Marriage is more than sex.

Ladies and Guys, for marriage and the wedding will take care of itself. Only prepare for your wedding and your marriage will fall apart. So while planning for marriage, your reason should be because you’re;

You’re ready for marriage,

To marry for love,

You want to fulfill your purpose,

You want to be a good help mate.

Make sure you “marry for the right reasons, not because you are lonely or want a child. Marriage should be meaningful, not a means to an end” – Reno Omokri. Marry for love, not lust. Love and lust aren't the same. Love is gold. Lust is gold plated. Gold lasts, but after a while gold plated jewels starts to fade. Mind you, if you marry a man or woman because of your lust for them you have entered a marriage that will make you lost in life.

When you marry for the right reason, GOD will definitely give you beyond the very best you deserve in marriage. A partner who truly desire to marry you with right motives and a partner meant for you.