When we are bathing in
romance we see our darlings and sweethearts as truly ideal creatures. This is really awesome,
but if you want a happy marriage you should know each other better in every
possible way. Thus, before enjoy your first dance at your wedding it is
important you know yourselves quite well and discuss the following:
Your Future
How do both of you see
your future? Are the "happy pictures" the same? Why not play a
wonderful game? You need to take a piece of paper and, in turn, draw everything
you want to do together in the future. It can be anything: your wedding, your
house and children, traveling, etc. Mutual games and quests make you closer and
help to develop your relationship.
The 'Language' of Love
According to experts,
the "5 love languages" rule has 5 variants of love reflection and
acceptance. They are serving, confirming, and quality of time, getting
presents, and touching. Having a priority list of all the mentioned patterns,
you are able to concentrate on the most important traits.
Challenging Issues and
Disagreements
There is no sense in
quarreling intentionally, but it’s okay to analyse the reaction of your partner
in case his or her views are not identical to yours. There will be no serious
argument if you create "conflict rules" beforehand. You can break
dishes, go to another room, or draw your emotions on a notice board; anything
will do.
Trust and Jealousy
Some question whether
trust exists or not, but is it really necessary to push your luck? It is better
to discuss all the alarming questions beforehand. Do you feel the same way
about monogamy, party behaviour, flirting, and working trips? If you know what
makes each of you jealous, you can be more tender.
Priorities, Traditions,
and Religion
Experts say that
religious and traditional conflicts in a family usually start after a baby is
born. Both parents want to give their child the cultural background they
consider the best. This background can be different for the father and the
mother, so it’s a good idea to create a plan, the main aim of which is harmony
and the child’s future.
Sex
Even the most
passionate couples sometimes see that they have different needs and fancies.
Try to examine each other instead of quarreling and double-speaking. Knowing
some small secrets will be helpful both in ‘passionate’ and ‘calm’ periods of
your life. You are also welcome to watch various documentary films and take
funny tests on the topic. Of course, you should not forget about a glass of
good wine.
Money
People in love usually
share expenses without any deep analysis. However, income amounts are different
nowadays. ‘Romantic’ spending, of course, should not be thoroughly analyzed,
but if you are going to support each other financially, just start discussing
the balance and create some rules which are comfortable for both of you.
Parents, Kids, and Pets
Here are the key
questions: How many kids do you want, and when is the best time to have them?
Are you going to live with your parents or separately? Do you want one cat or a
dozen? The last two questions can be easily talked about, but if your partner
wants one kid ten years from now and you’re dreaming of a Yours, Mine and Ours
type of family, you’ll have to think everything over.
Benefits and Drawbacks
Sometimes it takes
years to learn something about a partner’s demerits, but there are some couples
that are happy to know all the drawbacks from the very beginning of the
relationship. This is truly the best variant of all! The earlier you have an
opportunity to evaluate the merits and accept the drawbacks in your beloved’s
character and appearance, the better. You’ll have a higher chance of avoiding
disappointment.
Hobbies and Private
Space
Family values can be
tricky for artistic personalities, and they can even be scary for such people.
But coupledom is not a sentence. If before getting married you are mutually
interested in each other’s hobbies (no matter what the hobby is), the emotional
exchange can make you closer in the future.
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