Men are not very good
at expressing their feelings, even to their closest friends. Perhaps, this does
not mean that we don't experience all the same emotions; for instance, hope,
fear, excitement, regret that everyone else does. Rather, it means that it's not
easy to know what his thoughts are. Apparently, sometimes this makes women
second-guess their relationships, even when things are likely going well. Thus,
this makes so many to be very worried. But there is no need for the worry as
luckily, there are many of signs that you can look out for. If he's doing any
of the 14 things below, it means that he loves you. That’s for sure; you have a
place in his heart.
Making
Plans
Even men at their most
committed are fiercely independent people. They love their time to themselves
and with the boys, and always have an idea of where their lives are heading. So
if he's making plans with you, that include you, it's a huge step. It means
that he wants you there for his life journey, and that he loves you so much he
can't imagine it without you.
He
Respects You
The raging debate that
is the new wave of feminism has brought up one very important point; that men
should respect women as their equals, and not just child-bearers and household
slaves. For too long, the world has taught them differently, and it's a habit
that's very difficult to break. So if he's treating you like his equal;
intellectually, in the home, and at work, it means that he's really making an
effort to be right for you.
Keeps
Watch
Not like a creepy,
Batman on the end of the bed while you're sleeping kind of way. But in a way
where he's genuinely making sure you're okay at all times. Your feelings and
emotions are incredibly important to him because he loves you and he wants you
to be happy. As long as it does not turn clingy, this is a good sign.
Does
not Brag
Of course, he should be
bragging about you all the time. But does he brag about himself, and all the
things he does for you? If he does, that means he expects rewards and isn't
really doing it for you in the long run. But if he keeps quiet about all the
wonderful ways he treats you, then it's literally all for you. Love is
selflessness.
Honesty
Above almost everything
else, honesty has got to be the most valued human trait of all. Everybody likes
an honest person, because it means that they value your time and respect your
intelligence. Find a guy who is always honest with you, and you've found a guy
who really loves you. They're not interested in mind games, but just being in a
happy and healthy relationship.
Selflessness
Very important, love is
selflessness. It's all the little acts where you're thinking about the other
partner and how you can maximise their pleasure, and not yours. In this
mixed-up egocentric and narcissistic world, this is no easy thing to do. But if
he thinks about you before he thinks about himself, it means he really cares.
Fighting
Clean
There is literally not
a single relationship in the world which has not involved in at least one
fight; or in at least a heated argument. You can't avoid it, because no two
people are exactly the same. Even if you’re same, self has conflict with self. Thus,
there's fighting with name-calling and vase-throwing, and then there's fighting
rationally; seeing the other person's point of view. You should choose for yourself
the one that means love?
Interested
In You
You would hope that any
person that you're dating would take an interest in you, but sadly SOME men
really don't care about anything more than the sex. This does not mean he has
to deeply care about your wardrobe. But if he really loves you, then he'll want
to know everything about your life; and shock, even what you did today.
Protective
From time immemorial,
men have been the designated protectors of women. Now, though, you tend to get
the two extremes: either a man who punches anyone who even looks your way, or
the man who honestly couldn't give a flying donkey fart whether you run across
a busy highway. Your ideal man should be in the middle, not restricting you
from being happy, but always having your back.
Focused
On You
Talking of all the
other luscious ladies that come his way; if you're the light of his life, then
he's barely going to give them a second glance. He's blinded by love. Perhaps,
this is not to say you both can't agree that Omotala Jalade is the greatest and
most gorgeous woman in the world. But if she knocked on his door, he'd better
turn her down.
He
Agrees Most of the Time
This is one of those
tricky ones, but you'll have a sense for when things are right. Of course you
want to agree on things. Opposites do attract, but shared ideas and interests
attract way more. On the other hand, if he's just saying yes to everything then
he's probably not being totally truthful. It's a balance, but you'll know it
when you see it.
Hand-Holding
Public displays of
affection can be a divisive issue. Some people love it, and some people hate
it. Most people who hate Public Display of Affection are just embarrassed, for
themselves or the people around them. Why else would you dislike showing the
world how much you love someone? If your man's confident enough to love holding
hands with you everywhere, then you should rejoice; he's a keeper.
Considers
Your Plans
Actually this goes
hand-in-hand with selflessness. It does not matter how important some plan is
to him, or how much he really wants to go to that party; if he loves you, then
he's going to make sure you're okay with it first. And if you've got something
else on that requires him, then a man in love will ditch anything to do that.
He
Gets Jealous a
Bit
Nobody likes a jealous
person. Someone who flies into a rage; for instance at the tiniest bit of eye
contact with someone else. But nobody who adores someone else can help but get jealous
a bit sometimes. Your man will try his best to hide his jealousy, since he
doesn't want to be that guy. But at the same time, he is certainly keeping an
eye on it.
Good morning, this beautiful day, and Happy Sunday. #DubemickyInspiringGreatnessDaily. Do have yourself a pleasant week ahead.
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